I'm alive and here

well i know it has been a few months since i been here to post, but i have been reading all yours jsut so you know. Thing have been hetic here the past couple of months. School has been a little rough on me. Classes are only 5 weeks long and i have 2 at a time. I am glad to say that i have three classes left till i get my associates degree. I am on spring break this week so i am trying to catch up a lot of things. I have been cleaning out the house. we have gotten rid of so much stuff i can not believe it. I am surprised that the garbage men have not said anythingj about how much has been out there the past two weeks.

I have even gone through my closet and got rid of aot of my clothes that do not fit and took them to a donation drop box. SO far I took 6 bags of clothes ( mine, hubby's, and the kids).

The boys are doing good. Michael turned 8 and Philip turned 6 in Feb. Jacob will be 3 in June.
We are planning a trip to NC to see a friend of ours over the Easter Break next month, just not sure yet if it is definate. Then in June we will go on a regular week long vacatioon to the poconos.

Ans yes I will be in School during all of this becasue after I finish my associates Degree in May i have another week off before i start in with Bachlor's Degree classes. At least these classes are only one at a time , but yet they are still 5 weeks long.

So I am going to try to post here a least once a week for now on. I am usually on facebook all the time so if you ever want to know how i am doing inbetween post feel free to find me there.

I am Still Alive...

well it has been a long time since my last blog. but we have been doign alright. the kids were sick again over the holidays but we are all better now.

well first let me say that thanksgiving was good and went alright. then right after that is when michael and jacob got sick.

the finally got off the antibotics on christmas day. so we had a nice christmas. Kids enjoyed themselves very much and got way to much stuff from everyone.

As for school for me i ended up having to repeat my two classes form last term. I am retaking these classes because i ended up without internet for almost 2 weeks if not a little longer, and since my classes are only 5 week classes it was hard to catch up. So i am taking computer applications and management and leaderhip classes over again this term.

I did however get set for my bachlor's degree and am set to start in june of this year with classes. Once i get into them i will only have one class at a time to take instead of the two.

So now i am preparing for birthdays now that am coming up soon.

but other than that i have been doing alright.

Sorry it has been awhile sinc emy last post. I have been sick and so have the kids.

well we are better now except forme i have a head cold now but it is going away little by little.

I am in my last week of class for my marketing class. I fell behind with my work with being sick but got all caught up over the weekend, with hubby's help of course. I had to interview him for one of my papers.

On the home front things have been going good. Hubby and I are stil going strong with working things out. Haven;t had any set backs at all..

Things with my mom and zachary are good. I go over and see them almost everyday after i drop philip off at school while waiting to go back and get them at the end of the school day.

The Fair is approaching fairly fast and i have been working on things for that as well this past weekend. i went to leslie's house on sunday and we made our candles together. It was her birthday so i got spend time with her and it was nice not having any of my kids around for once.
Hubby kept them with him so we could get the candles done alot faster for the fair.

Byt he way for those of you know leslie, she is without a computer and internet for the moment so that is why you have not seem any post from her anywhere.

Well today i will be working on fair stuff and maybe some school stuff. I have a paper to do and a discussion board as well but they are both due no later than midnight CT on sunday the 9th.

i also have a tastefully simple party to do on the 8th. so i have to get ready for that as well. Which shouldn't be to bad since the host is making the food.

speaking of making food i have lots of baking to do next week and i have to make the bbq for the fair as well. Next week i am going to be swamped with fair stuff and school stuff becasue with school i start not 1 but TWO classes now that only last 5 weeks. so that meand double the amount of work for school. but at least i will have my mom helping me with the baking on friday and she will be helping out at the fair on saturday the 15th as well.

well that is about it for now i will try to get in here and post more before the fair gets here and after.

Well the weekend went ok this week. On friday we didn't do to much since hubby and I are still having some problems. He came home form work and we talked for a bit and then we went out to dinner with the kids and stopped at walmart so i could get a few things we needed for the house. It was payday for him and we do it each week.

On saturday we went to Go get hubby's haircut as we were going out later that night just the two of us. We are trying to do more things together jsut the two of us so we have time without the kids. We went out to a bar/ club with some other friends to celebrate a one's birthday. We had somewhat of a good time. hubby doesn't dance unless he is tipsy and the same with me. So we mainly sat there for a good part of the night. But it was good jsut getting out. Needless to say when we got home we were both a little down since it seemed that the others that invited us didn;t really seem to notice that we were there from hubby's point of view. So we had a few words and of course it leaded to a small fight about ALex again. It always seems to come back to her anymore.

Well anyway during the day on saturday after the haircut and before going out for the night we ended up going to a pet shelter and adopting a new dog. We now have a beagle named boomer as well as our Shiba Inu Mix named Lady Mae. They seem to be getting along fairly well. We have boomer for a trial of 2 weeks to make sure he will work with our family. He is so cute and the kids love him already. We feel he is a keeper and the newest member of our family.

On sunday we didn't do to much because of all the rain and boy was it raining. We did go back to walmart to get a few new dog supplies for boomer and of course lady. then we came home and we watched some tv and then as soon as my internet came back up I finished All 4 of my school papers that were due by midnight CST for my class. so today is my first day of break for a week before my next class starts. The car show we were to go to got postponed due to the rain.

I would have to say that even thought hubby and I had a few rough moments this weekend It was a good one. I really enjoyed myself this weekend and the time i spent with hubby.

well where to begin. first of all matt and i are still working through are problems taking one day at a time. I still have alot of trust issues to work on wiht him and i know that will take a lot of time. i also have some insecurities i need to deall with me on my own. But on the bright side we have been spending more time together and more time talking.

We went to the shore over the weekend for a day trip and it was nice. We got to spend the day together as a family and it was really nice. We are going to go to a car show this weekend near us(in Northampton). That is on Sunday and on Saturday we are going to be going out with a group of friend for an adult birthday party.

I am starting to get use to the idea that he has friends that are girls. I can't deny him that anymore than he can deny me my guy friends that i am close to. even though they may not live near me and i do not talk to them all that often but i still have them. and yes there are times when are chats get on the sexual side but it is all joking around and he knows that because matt has been there when they have happened.

so i am trying not to be a hypocrit about him having and talking to girls as friends but it is very hard. i told him i am jealous and that i have never been jealous before with anyone. I told him exactly how i feel about him and how he makes me feel.

I toild him how my heart aches when he is not near me and my stomach does summersaults when he is near me. I have never felt like this before and i have never been this in love before either. I told him that each and every day when he walks out that door to go to work my heart aches for him til he gets back no matter how much i may talk to him on his cell phone or the computer at work. My heart is not whole again till he is home and near me.

Am I crazy for feeling this way and telling him all this? I am not sure but it is how i feel and i wanted him to know. I want him to understand why it hurt me so bad to find those phone calls and those conservations to Alex. Why i am so jealous i do not know. she lives like 600 miles away. maybe it is because i am insecure about my looks and my weight. i have a feeling that she is prettier than me and a lot less skinner than me. I think that is what bothers me the most.

Well thanks to all who have made it this far in my blog today. I just need to get this all out and this seemed like the best place for me to do it.

by the way the kida are doing great in school and jacob is getting big. I have been helping my mom out still and she seems to be gettng a better each day. she is still on oxygen but now she has the smaller potable tanks that she can take with her easier.

well i know it has been a week or so since i last blogged but things have been crazy here as you can tell by my previous post. I did find outhtat hubby was up to stuuf with this girl on the internet. I found the conservations on the computer. ( yes i was snooping, but he gave me reason to ) I found the conservations from three days ( the night we went out for our anniversay, our actuall anniversary, and the morning after) all of which was wither right before or after we had made love. this is why i was so pissed off at him. i actually packed up a bag for me and the kids and left. I was planning o staying out all night at a hotel, with his money of course, but the kids were hollering to much to go home so i did. But only after i made him think i was not coming back at all.

well needless to say we had it out that night and for some odd reason he admitted everything and he made me lay my heart on the line like i have never done before. I had him on his knees in tears with what i was saying. I told him i am ready to leave and never come back becaue that is what my head was telling me to do but heart was telling me to stay and work through it.

so now we are back to taking it one day at a time. he even stopped talking to this girl at least here at hime anyway. I told him right out that i do not trust him like i did before and it is going to be a long time before i can trust him completely again.

he sais he understands that now and he is very sorry for breaking the trust in me and he will do anything and everything to get it back. he even offered to wipe all his accounts off the computer and only use it for school and talk to no one but me. but i felt guilty for some reason. i mean he shoud be able to have friends but i am sooo afraid of him talking to girls on the computer even if they are friends, except for you leslie. I guess it is becasue i don't know who they are and it bothers me.

i told him point blank that by him talking hte way he did to this girl made me feel unloved, undesirable, useless, pathethic, and gullable, and that our marriage was nothing but a big joke to him.

but now things are starting to look up again. He even cuddles with me at night now and he is not on the computer late at night or early in th morning and if he is talking to someone he lets me know and he even does it in front of me so i know what they are talking about. He has not been hiding anything from me as far as i know. but i am still very leary about it all.

but i will take what i can get at this point. Irealize that builing the trust back is going to be a long and slow process but as long as we are both willing to work on it, it is worth it in the end.

thanks for staying with me all the way to the end here on this blog.

well it has been a couple of days since my last blog. I have been busy with school work. I have been working on my first 2-3 page paper and my first discussion board paper that consist of 3-4 paragraphs.

I have been trying to juggle all this on top of the kids in school and with having zach calling me each day to come over and see the boys.

it is going alright except for the fact that i feel zach thinks he can do what ever he wants here becasue my mom is not around. I am constantly yelling at him for doing things that he is not suppose to be doing and they are the same things my mom had just got done telling him about right before we left their hotel room.

and he will not leave matt alone. he follows matt around like a puppy and matt is starting to get anoyed at it. zach does this after i get done telling to please leave matt aone that he is working on school work that he needs to get in ( his first monday nigh class is only weeks long and he has a major work load to get done in a short omount of time and can not to any of it while at work even on his lunch break).

I like having him around but i just wish he would listen more and i have brouhgt this up to my mom each nght when i take him back home so i am not sure what is going to happen with it. I have to keep reminding him that the other boys are only half his age and they are way smaller than him and that he can not be SO rough with them. ( he ike to body slam them on my bed, which is only held together with two bolts since we had to saw the box spring in half to get it up the steps)

Sorry if it seems like i am complaining alot here but i am just realy confused as to what to do. i don't want zach to think i do not want him around but yet at the same time i do not want the other three to feel that they have no say in their home. today michael and philip actually told me they do not want zach to come over. they just want to spend time with daddy after he comes home from work.

thanks for listening. I am off to start me second week of school with all my papers and reading.

hope you have a great time enjoying the holiday today and the weather.

we are planning on cooking out on the gril today for dinner ( chicken and steak)